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Monday, May 31, 2010

Communication style 1- 'The Passive Communicator'


 Unsure of own rights.
 Believes rights of others are more important than own rights.
 Gives in to what others want.
 Easily taken advantage of.
 Afraid to communicate honestly.
 Avoids direct communication with party concerned.
 Non-verbal behaviour undermines content of message.
 Remains silent when something bothers you.
 Little movement, tense and rigid.
 Voice flat and monotone.
 Voice drops away at the end.
 Apologizes a lot.

 Conflict is avoided.
 Your need for belonging at all cost is met.
 There is comfort and security in maintaining a familiar behaviour pattern.
 You shoulder less responsibility.
 You can control others as they feel the need to protect you.

 You live an unlived life.
 People lose respect for you.
 You repress (keep in) and internalize anger and negative emotions. This is very destructive for you personally.
 Diseases caused or aggravated by submissive behaviour include migraine headaches, asthma attacks, many skin diseases, ulcers, arthritis, chronic fatigue, and hypertension.
 Psychological problems include; low self-esteem, high anxiety, depression and inhibition.


  1. how do you deal with one tho?

  2. Anonymous

    I think that the best way to deal with a passive communicater is by being assertive and clearly stating what it is that you want/need/feel. Through your assertiveness and show of respect, the passive person may begin to feel more comfortable and they in turn may learn to trust you and thus they may become more open and assertive themselves. The thing to remember is that passive communicator usually has low self-esteem. They do not feel very comfortable expressing what they think or feel mainly because they are afraid that it won't make sense to people or that it may make other people angry. You therefore need to build confidence with that person before he/she begins to communicate openly.

    Encouragement, respect, understanding etc are things that help build self esteem. The passive person needs to learn how to communicate assertively, that is with mutual respect, but like I said, they first need to be confident.

    Hope this answers your question

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