Friday, June 25, 2010
Communication Style 4- 'The Assertive Communicator'
Understands, believes in and accepts own rights.
Understands, believes in and accepts the rights of others.
Communicates openly and honestly.
Respects self and others.
Likes and feels good about self.
Communicates with the party concerned.
Listens and talks.
Expresses positive and negative feelings.
Matches verbal and non-verbal behaviour with content of message.
Voice is steady and firm.
Tone is modulated, rich and warm.
Speaks fluently with few awkward pauses.
It fosters fulfilling, deep and intimate relationships. Less preoccupied with self-consciousness, anxiety and less driven by the need for self-protection or control.
The assertive person can “see”, “hear” and love others more easily.
Fears and anxieties are reduced. Don’t approach others with fear of being hurt or controlled.
You live your own life and more of a person’s needs are fulfilled.
Your life will be disrupted to some extent and you will feel the pain associated with honest and caring confrontation.
There is a personal struggle involved in changing one’s own habitual behaviours.
Being authentically yourself can be a painful experience. You need to risk disagreements knowing that some conflict is necessary to build a significant relationship between equals.
It involves becoming vulnerable in significant relationships.
It brings you face to face with your true values.
A lot of willpower is necessary.
Achieving this style of communication takes hard work and practise, but the benefits are many and insha'Allah with a sincere intention, Allah (swt) can make things easy to achieve.
In the next post I plan to put up some practise examples on assertive communication, Insha'Allah!