Monday, June 14, 2010
Communication Style 3- "The Manipulative Communicator"
No understanding of and no conviction in belief of own rights.
No understanding or acceptance of rights of others.
Unwilling to communicate honestly.
Indirect communication with party concerned.
Differing verbal and non-verbal behaviour are obstructive to content of message.
Voice whining and sing-song.
Lack energy and vitality.
Anticipates questions and answers.
Mistrusts self and others.
Others tend to comply with their wishes out of guilt or anxiety.
They are able to satisfy their needs in the short term to a large extent.
They do not have to reveal their true feelings to others and risk vulnerability.
People avoid them in the long run.
They make other people feel bad about themselves, but also resentful of the manipulator.
They do not ever develop a sense of the legitimacy of their own rights and wants.
They are not able to share their true feelings with others in an atmosphere of trust and caring.
They are always afraid of being caught out and rejected as a result.