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Saturday, July 2, 2011

Forgiveness-Part 2- Three Major reasons which keep people back from forgiveness

1.       Win-win situation
  • We are encouraged to worry about looking good in the eyes of others and yet we forget about how we look in the eyes of Allah.
  • We are taught that we should always be the winner in all situations and this results in a constant competition between people.
  • Coming across as “the loser” is unthinkable in today’s society and through this actions that are good in Islam come to be regarded as bad and vice-versa.

2.     Belief that we are weak if we forgive
  • In modern day society there is a reversal of things.
  • Things that make us strong according to Islam are regarded as weaknesses in modern day society.
  • Islam would rather see the person who humbles himself/ herself as stronger, but in modern day society he/she would be regarded as weak.
  • The person who can control his anger, likewise will be regarded as weak, but in Islam we know that this is the stronger person.
  • Shaytaan uses our human needs to justify negative actions and to steer us away from what is considered good in the eyes of Allah.

3.     Lack of courage to forgive others
  • The only fear that we should have is fear of Allah (swt).
  • If we make an intention to do good then Inshaa-Allah things will become easy for us.
  • We use our fears to justify our negative actions and behaviours and also to make excuses for ourselves.
  • This is just another way to get us away from doing actions that will please Allah (swt).
Inshaa Allah in the next post we will have a questionnaire to see how forgiving you are!


  1. JazakAllah khair!

    This post reminds me of the folloing hadith of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him):

    "Powerful is not he who knocks the other down. Indeed powerful is he who controls himself in a fit of anger." (Bukhari and Muslim)

  2. Eyewitness

    Jazakallah Khayr for your comment brother and for once again sharing important teachings of Islam with us. This hadith is such an important one and there is so much wisdom in it, when people are able to control their anger then everything in their lives are much better. Inshaa'Allah I hope that we can all become strong and able to control our anger.

  3. Someone asked, what is forgiveness???
    A little girl reply: It is the wonderful fruit that a tree gives when it is being hurt by a stone.

  4. Asma

    Well said! Thanks for sharing this lovely quote with us, very nice way of remembering forgiveness.

  5. Thank you for this great reminder. All too often we forget that Allah forgives us when we realize our mistakes and seek His forgiveness and yet, we, mere mortals, find it hard to forgive others.

    By the way, Zarina, I have decided to give you the Liebster Blog Award. Please visit my blog for full details


  6. Inspiring Always

    Thank you so much for the award, I've tried to comment on your blog but I'm having problems posting comments on certain blogs so I apologise about that.